Learning from Adversity

0:08 you're going to have all kinds of 0:09 adversity and conflict 0:11 in in anything in life but in particular 0:14 in a basketball season you know you're 0:15 going to have 0:16 30 you could have 35 games of up and 0:19 down up and down and up and down of 0:21 of of the difficulty of the task the 0:23 adversity that you have 0:25 um and what i we try and stay as a 0:27 coaching staff like that 0:29 we want them to see strength we don't 0:31 want to see a coaches up and down we 0:33 don't want to see a coach that's getting 0:34 technicals every game and and and just 0:37 real 0:37 and screaming at the players we want to 0:40 have them see this 0:41 however as hard as it is and everybody 0:43 that knows anything about leadership 0:45 knows this that adversity is your true 0:47 friend 0:48 even though you don't believe it at the 0:50 time that somewhere 0:51 somehow it's going to come back it's 0:54 going to be 0:54 your treasure one day and and as a 0:57 result 0:58 we i think rick pitino said this in some 1:00 book i read your failure 1:02 his fertilizer for growth this growth 1:04 mindset we have in conflict 1:07 is a key to success you have to look at 1:09 it and say okay 1:11 i know i don't know if it's one year 1:13 later five years later 10 years 1:15 later but we're get this is gonna be 1:17 this is good stuff for us 1:19 how can we best use it to service in the 1:22 future 1:24 we're at wisconsin we had never won at 1:26 wisconsin we were about to win at 1:28 wisconsin we were up by three points 1:30 with 1:31 two and a half seconds to go and they 1:32 threw in a three and beat us in overtime 1:35 and i remember going in the locker room 1:37 the guys were 1:38 our rule is after a game nobody does 1:41 anything 1:41 guys were like on their phone they were 1:43 like so upset 1:45 uh and we just tried from that moment on 1:49 tried to say that stuff is never 1:50 happening again 1:52 and that you watch down the road and 1:54 maybe it's this season in front of all 1:56 of you 1:57 where this is going to help us win a 1:59 game that probably is more important 2:00 that 2:01 than this game and sure enough we had 2:03 very similar situations 2:05 in our game with kansas and our game was 2:08 syracuse where we were up by 2:09 three with two or three seconds to go 2:12 everybody was locked in in the huddle 2:14 and we made them take really tough shots 2:17 so 2:17 that was one time that i remember going 2:20 into the locker room and it was 2:22 like i looked at everybody and they were 2:24 their heads were slumping and they were 2:25 like through 2:27 because we had been through a tough 2:28 stretch of games playing big time teams 2:30 every night 2:31 and it was it was probably a really 2:34 important time in our season 2:36 the other one i think already mentioned 2:37 of we lost to an 0-13 2:40 penn state team and it was 2:43 we went back into that after being up by 2:45 13 with eight minutes to go 2:47 it was as low as you can get after a 2:49 game and i told them about it 2:52 but the next day the team the team from 2:55 this growth mindset that we try to 2:57 instill 2:58 but it's not like we're putting computer 3:00 chips in them they have to 3:02 they have to grow through it they called 3:04 their own meeting and made it right 3:06 so i think these these times that are so 3:08 difficult i look at them so 3:10 i you know it's painful i don't sleep 3:13 these times adversaries conflict are so 3:15 difficult 3:16 but i do know down the road there that 3:19 that's 3:20 you got to have those type of conflicts 3:23 to really have the good things happen to 3:25 you 3:26 in your on your team