Community Organizing for Social Justice Teach-Out
Diversity & Dialogue / Lesson 5 of 7
Communitication Styles
4 minutes
A. Conflict Responses
When people differ in their styles of communications, the differences can trigger feelings that are so strong that they affect relationships even when they agree upon goals. Which of the following describes you?
- Which of the following describes your own style? Check mark as many as apply.
- Which one or ones are most conducive to dialogue? Circle as many as apply.
- Compare overlaps or gaps between the check marked styles you identify with and the circled styles you find most conducive to dialogue.
| Quick to speak | Likes to compete | Usually quiet |
| Tries to withdraw | Wants to please | Gives in to others |
| Tries to compromise | Asks what others think | Tries to collaborate with others |
B. Responding to Triggers
When someone talks and triggers your feelings, it is important to think about why, and continue communications. People like these can be difficult and disagreeable, but they are the very ones with whom we should dialogue most.
How do you respond to triggers? Which of the following responses is yours?
| I say something | I become quiet |
| I attack the person | I don't know what to say |
| I listen and learn | I tell them that they are wrong |
| I confront them | I question them |
| I start a conversation | I organize a meeting |